What to do when your boss is a bully.

Your boss is terrorizing you — but not in the way that’s been making headlines lately.


No shoulder rubs, risqué jokes or meetings in hotels.

Instead, the boss is yelling. Dumping work on you. Constantly criticizing.

In a 2017 survey from the Workplace Bullying Institute,19% of respondents said they experienced workplace bullying — and a whopping 61% of bullies were bosses.

“For some reason at work we say ‘Well, they’re adults anyway, let them take care of themselves,'” says Institute director Gary Namie. “We need employers to be as afraid of [bullying] as they’re supposed to be afraid of sexual harassment.”

The Institute defines bullying as “repeated mistreatment of an employee.” Namie says “boss bullies” usually take four different forms: throwing temper tantrums, critiquing performance non-stop, withholding resources or spreading gossip to tarnish your reputation.

Surviving any of these bullies isn’t easy. Below, some tips on getting started.


Dismantle the myth.


The bully wants the employees to blame themselves — to think they’re targeted because of laziness, poor performance or ineptitude. But bullies often target the best workers, Namie says.

“Shame comes from that [sense of] worthlessness, so bullies are always trying to put that on people,” Namie says. “But they’re just the Wizard of Oz … it’s just we rarely have Toto to pull the curtain back.”


Confide in someone.


Telling your story is an important step before taking action, says Stacy Tye-Williams, an assistant professor of communications studies and English at Iowa State University. Victims often report feeling isolated, confused or ashamed — just as the bully intended.

“Being validated is huge,” she says. “They just want people to tell them they’re not nuts.”

Telling a confidante helps the victim feel less alone, according to Tye-Williams, and also gives them the feeling of agency over the experience — a feeling they’ll need when they’re planning next steps.

“Work through what’s happening, because otherwise it’s very difficult to come up with an action plan if you yourself haven’t come to terms or made sense of these different dynamics,” she says.

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Source: What to do when your boss is a bully – Jan. 15, 2018

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