Dos and don’ts for creating and running an anti-bullying program.

All school officials, staff and parents should be scrutinizing the anti-bullying program in their schools. The following article is a great listing of dos and don’ts for creating and running an anti-bullying program.
Dos and don'ts for creating and running an anti-bullying program.

Dos and don’ts for creating and running an anti-bullying program.

Through my years of dealing with my own children’s bullying situations, I realized that although the schools like to claim they are actively promoting anti-bullying in their schools, their actions don’t necessarily fall in line.

More often than not, the principal, teachers, etc. are more concerned about the optics for the school than with actively dealing with the bullying problem, usually resulting in the bullied child suffering consequences for coming forward.

Hopefully, more schools will back up their policies with their actions.

Once you’ve read this article, check out the following posts on my personal blog describing our personal circumstances and more recommendations for school staff.


By Brett Lechtenberg

I have been teaching anti-bullying techniques for almost 20 years and I have seen a variety of anti-bullying programs and techniques. Although all of these programs are well-intentioned, many of them miss the boat when it comes to teaching people how to really decrease bullying.

It never ceases to amaze me that people think it is a great idea to use mustaches, paint kids fingers and use magicians to help get anti-bullying messages across. Then, when you ask the coordinator of such events what is their objective or what was actually learned by the students who took part in the experience, they typically respond with something like, “It’s a start,” or “We need a positive way to get people to remember not to bully and to report bullying when they see it.”

Let’s address the first common response of “It’s a start.” The fact is that these types of programs are NOT a start if there is no tangible follow-up training with children and their parents on how to actually improve a child’s self image, control their confidence indicators, or strengthen their level of self-respect and respect for others. These types of programs are more of a way for people who don’t know how to fix the problem to feel good about themselves and claim that they are making a difference. Honestly, this is not helping our kids become more empowered.

With regard to the second point, “We need a positive way to get people to remember not to bully and to report bullying when they see it,” this is just assuming that children are stupid and they are incapable of learning how to protect and build their own self-esteem and confidence. Again this is another absolute load of crap. Our children are incredibly capable of building self-esteem, self-confidence, and principles of respect to their lives in an incredibly short period of time. Of course, some people learn and adapt quicker than others, but virtually anybody can learn these skills.

The fact is, if you want to reduce bullying and help our children, then you need to work on the fundamental building blocks of who children are as people. Teach children how to have self-respect and then they will have respect for others. Teach children how to effectively control their confidence indicators and nurture the things that cause them to build self-confidence. If parents would quit overprotecting their children so much and instead train them how to interact with the world and other people effectively, then they would be doing their children a lot more good.

So what should a good anti-bullying program include as its backbone of education for a child?

  • A system for teaching parents how to work with their child and not stunt their child’s growth.
  • A comprehensive method for helping children raise their level of self confidence and esteem.
  • Effective means of teaching children to control their “confidence indicators.”
  • A cohesive system for educating children on how to understand and nurture their own self-respect.
  • An effective system for teaching children how to respect others.
  • A system for teaching children what bullying actually is and is not.

I do commend anyone who wants to help our children, our schools and families with the issue of bullying. Just remember that if you are going to train people how to better prevent bullying, don’t assume they are ignorant or incapable of learning basic personal skills. Teach people to build themselves up from their personal foundation and you will be amazed at how quickly we will start creating a society of children who are empowered and who will be able to empower others, instead of the masses of low self-esteem and confidence deprived children we have today.

Expert Author Brett LechtenbergBrett Lechtenberg is Utah's top expert on safety. He has trained thousands of people to empower themselves physically and mentally with his karate program at Personal Mastery Martial Arts and through his anti-bullying program. Learn more at Brett's websites or Article Source.
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