Dealing with threats whether veiled or blatant.

One of the hardest things to learn is how to deal with threats whether veiled or blatant.

Dealing with threats whether veiled or blatant.

Dealing with threats whether veiled or blatant.

Years ago, I was part of a business venture that fell through.

One day, Carl, one of the partners, sent me a message out of the blue: “I’ll be visiting you soon.”

Since we haven’t talked for more than a year, I responded, “Sure, when will you be in town and for how long?”

“We’ll be having some fun,” he said ominously. Suddenly, I feel a chill running up my spine. “What are you talking about?” I asked, hoping this wouldn’t go any further.

“I’ll find you, and we’ll have some fun,” Carl said, before I blocked him from my contact list.

This venture wasn’t my first rodeo – I’ve founded multiple businesses over my career. Some were successful, some not, but this is the first time I’ve received a thinly veiled threat.

I wasn’t prepared for my emotional response, the instinctive fight or flight response that kicked in.

I couldn’t help but make sure my door was locked, and I called my wife to make sure everything was fine with her.

Fear is a natural human response, yet it can easily overpower our brain’s logical capabilities and leave us with only our primal instincts.

Once I calmed down, I was able to think about the situation realistically – Carl was hundreds of miles away.

Yet, in that moment, I felt my back was up against the wall and only one of us would be walking away – if not for the blocking feature on my messaging client.

Our mind is amazing, with vast powers of imagination, yet we can often trap ourselves in it. It can help to pull us out of the situation, or prompt us to take action by researching the experiences of others.

Better yet, work through the situation with a professional, such as a counselor or therapist, who can help you understand your own emotions and how to control them as you face difficult situations in the workplace.



Philip Lee

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Philip Lee is a tech entrepreneur and founder of CounselChat, where you can find free answers to mental health questions from professional counselors.

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